These resources were sourced from attendees and participants of the 2023 Alumni Reunion Gender Reveal Panel.

The Gender Reveal Panel was hosted by ‘93 Carleton alumni and centered discussions on parenting trans and gender non-conforming children. Special thanks to Out After Carleton for sharing these resources with us.

Groups & Organizations

  • GenderCool Project: A youth-led movement changing misinformed opinions about transgender and nonbinary youth through powerful, positive experiences
  • Trans Student Educational Resources: A youth-led organization dedicated to transforming the educational environment for trans and gender non-conforming students through advocacy and empowerment
  • Parents of Trans Youth: Provides learning, support, and community to parents and caregivers of transgender and gender diverse kids
  • Gender and Family Project: Provides comprehensive resources for gender expansive children, transgender adolescents, their families, and communities
  • National Center for Transgender Equality: Information, guidance, and resources for trans individuals, families and allies. Opportunities to take action and advocate for trans rights
  • Real Mama Bears: Supporting, educating, and empowering families with LGBTQ+ members
  • Scarleteen: Progressive, independent organization focused on providing education around sexuality and healthy relationships. Incredible wealth of informative content, interactive services such as well-moderated message boards, a text/SMS help service, and referrals for sexual, reproductive, and mental healthcare

Books

  • Super Late Bloomer: My Early Days in Transition by Julia Kaye
    • “A highly personal collection documenting the early months of artist Julia Kaye’s gender transition.”
  • This is How it Always Is by Laurie Frankel 
    • “This big-hearted novel about a family with a transgender child is in the lead for the most sensitively and sincerely told story of 2017… Frankel’s portrayal of even the most openhearted parents’ doubts and fears around a child’s gender identity elevates this novel.” ―People (Book of the Week)
  • Beyond the Gender Binary by Alok-Vaid-Menon
    • “In Beyond the Gender Binary, poet, artist, and LGBTQIA+ rights advocate Alok Vaid-Menon deconstructs, demystifies, and reimagines the gender binary.”
  • Pageboy: A Memoir by Elliot Page 
    • “Full of intimate stories, from chasing down secret love affairs to battling body image and struggling with familial strife, Pageboy is a love letter to the power of being seen. With this evocative and lyrical debut, Oscar-nominated star Elliot Page captures the universal human experience of searching for ourselves and our place in this complicated world.”
  • Trap Door: Trans Cultural Production and the Politics of Visibility (Critical Anthologies in Art and Culture), edited by Reina Gossett, Eric A. Stanley, and Johanna Burton
    • “Essays, conversations, and archival investigations explore the paradoxes, limitations, and social ramifications of trans representation within contemporary culture.”
  • Nonbinary: Memoirs of Gender and Identity, edited by Micah Rajunov and Scott Duane 
    • “The powerful first-person narratives of this collection show us a world where gender exists along a spectrum, a web, a multidimensional space. Nuanced storytellers break away from mainstream portrayals of gender diversity, cutting across lines of age, race, ethnicity, ability, class, religion, family, and relationships.”
  • Gender Queer: A Memoir by Maia Kobabe
    • “Started as a way to explain to eir family what it means to be nonbinary and asexual, Gender Queer is more than a personal story: it is a useful and touching guide on gender identity—what it means and how to think about it—for advocates, friends, and humans everywhere.”

Videos

  • “A Short History of Trans People’s Long Fight for Equality” by Samy Nour Younes
    • “Transgender activist and TED Resident Samy Nour Younes shares the remarkable, centuries-old history of the trans community, filled with courageous stories, inspiring triumphs — and a fight for civil rights that’s been raging for a long time.”
  • “Becoming Him” by Chella Man.
    • “Normalizing the conversation about gender issues for disabled and LGBTQ youth.  Understanding the process of gender transition through testosterone supplementation.  Chella Man is a 19-year old deaf artist whose goal is to bring attention to and normalize conversation about gender issues for disabled and LGBTQ youth.”
  • “Chella Man is Challenging Gender Roles & Encouraging Us to be More Expansive”
    • “Chella Man is an LGBTQ activist, YouTuber and model. He became famous for sharing his experiences as a deaf transgender on social media and also for portraying mute superhero Jericho in the second season of the DC Universe series “Titans.” He joins us to talk about his transition and more.”
  • “Alok Vaid-Menon Explains the Difference Between Gender Non-Binary and Gender Non-Conforming”
    • “Alok Vaid-Menon answers Lilly’s questions about the difference between gender non-conforming and gender non-binary and how to correctly apologize if you use the wrong pronouns.”
  • “Jamie Lee Curtis Interviews ALOK on the World Beyond the Gender Binary”
    • “ALOK sits down with Jamie Lee Curtis to explore themes of gender, race, trauma, belonging and the human condition.”
  • “Texas Mom Amber Briggle Calls on Media to Tell Trans Stories at the GLAAD Media Awards”
    • “Texas mom Amber Briggle shares the story of her family, including her transgender son Max, at the GLAAD Media Awards.” (Briggle’s Youtube channel features more helpful videos). 
  • “Unconditional Love—Journey with Our Trans Child” by Christy Hegarty
    • “Through her own parenting experience, Christy Hegarty has become an advocate for families with transgender children. During her talk at TEDxBloomington, Hegarty shares what she has learned as the mother of a transgender child. She explores the concept that we should be able to accept that our children may be different than we expect them to be and that we should not be afraid to allow them to express themselves.”

Films & Documentaries

  • Paris is Burning (Jennie Livingston, 1990)
    • “This landmark documentary provides a vibrant snapshot of the 1980s through the eyes of New York City’s African American and Latinx Harlem drag-ball scene.”
  • My Name is Pauli Murray (West and Cohen, 2021) 
    • “A look at the life and ideas of Pauli Murray, a non-binary Black lawyer, activist and poet who influenced both Ruth Bader Ginsburg and Thurgood Marshall.”
  • Gender Revolution: A Journey with Katie Couric (2017)
    • “A look inside the labels associated with gender and identity, with expert testimony from scientists and physicians. Plus, how society and cultural influences play a part.”